Although I feel I’ve been confident from a young age, dating has been a completely different story. I couldn’t help but encounter butterflies in my tummy that I don’t think was excitement, more so nervous diarrhoea. Oops! Some boys bring women feelings of excitement and lust, but for me just a reminder that stress really triggers my IBS.
I would get so nervous about the thought of dating. I don’t know why, perhaps the fear of rejection. Feeling that is the guy wasn’t into me that is a direct reflection of me. I knew that limiting belief had to change and I had to develop my self confidence in order to have dating successes.
Just a thought before I go on…
You aren’t trying to make the person you are on a date with accept you, you are figuring out whether or not you accept them.
Guys aren’t attracted to compliment fishing crazies. And if they are I’m quite sure they made a Hallmark movie about it and it ended badly. If you don’t like yourself and need a guy to boost you up, then I would address that before you bring a guy into the equation, that’s just not fair on him.
It’s normal to be a little nervous especially when it’s a first date. But it’s important to have some strategies in place to leave you feeling confident.
5 tips for confidence on the first date
Tip 1: Wear something that you feel ultra sexy in
It sounds like such a simple one but it’s so true. When we feel sexy, we become more confident. I don’t mean something that’s so tit city your nipple could make a cameo. It could just be a nice pair of fitted jeans and some new heels (with a top, please!). Think of a favourite feature of yours that you would love to highlight or enhance.
Tip 2: Let go of expectations
Before you continue to plan your wedding and the names of your three children, just chill. Seriously. I know as females it’s so easy for our emotions to get in the way and our ovaries to hurt as soon as a stud male wants to take us out. Let go of any expectations and just enjoy the date right now for what it is. That way if it doesn’t go to plan and you don’t hear back from Mr Potential then you haven’t emotionally invested yourself in anything.
Tip 3: Don’t wear ridiculous shoes if you can’t walk in them
Men aren’t fans of females that are too high maintenance. Sorry but if you wear 6 inch heels for a hike and the poor guy has to piggy back you, girlfriend needs a wake up call! Wear shoes that are comfortable, yet stylish but won’t have you worrying that you’ll fall over face first into his man package.
Tip 4: They decided to spend time with you – they think you’re a shit hot Supermodel, baby!
Unless you’re going on a date with Stavros the Italian Stallion who clearly just wants to bone you, it’s safe to say your date wants to spend time with you. I always feel really flattered when a guy asks me out on a date because time is precious and it’s a compliment when they want to spend it with you.
Tip 5: Message a girlfriend for support
Have your little cheer team available to boost you up when you aren’t feeling so great or confident. I have a few girlfriends that I know will give me helpful advice when it comes to outfit help, hair dramas and a quick pep talk.
Tip 6: Remember it’s meant to be fun!
No, it’s not going to be like a trip to your Brazilian waxer, it’s going to be fun! So remember that you’re going to go out, have some drinks or food with a gorgeous guy and you’ll love it. No tooth extraction, no boring meetings with your accountant, some seriously flirty fun.
Tip 7: Be real, be you
If he’s meant to be he will fall in love with the fact you perhaps are a little crazy, eat Nutella for breakfast and have a cat named Kevin. There’s no point faking it if you think it will make a guy like you, remember to be authentic babe. He’ll stick around if it’s meant to be. And if he’s not then you still have Nutella and Kevin the kitten to watch romance movies with.