My goals, lessons and achievements for August in my monthly letter from the editor, aka me!
Today is my birthday! I turn 28 and if I’m being honest, I actually hate birthdays. The days leading up to my birthday each year have always served as a time for reflection. I’ll often look back recap everything that’s happened. Things I’m glad happened, shit I wish never happened, bad shopping decisions, life decisions, you know…
All this reflection usually leaves me feeling quite flat, so I make sure to fill my week with wonderful things in celebration of me – as everyone should!
This week, however, is filled to the brim with deadlines and classes. I have 30 something classes to teach, about 6 articles to write and some awesome video collaborative content I have to shoot. Don’t get me wrong, I love work, but if I could schedule a week that just involved spa treatments, luncheons and sexy times, then I would.
Though I’m not complaining as I started the celebrations a little early. I went to Canberra with mum where I caught up with my gorgeous girlfriends Ashleigh and Allura, ate some delicious food and relaxed.
It also inspired this month’s letter, a little different and shorter in parts compared to other months, but I thought I’d list 20 pieces of advice I’d give to my younger self. Why 20? Because I literally couldn’t think of 28 things!
Just because you look different to what you think is desirable does not make you undesirable. Yes, you aren’t blonde, tanned or busty (yet!) but it doesn’t make you any less gorgeous.
Stop fake tanning! Not only will you ruin so many of your white clothes, but people will praise you when you’re older for your creamy skin that you try to cover up.
You will get over your stretch marks. When you start modelling more you’ll realise that most people have them so please stop spending your money on shit that doesn’t work and all your energy worrying about them.
You will always regret the things you didn’t do, like not entering Miss Universe or that stupid little bikini comp that you had your heart set on. It’s much better off to look back at something and slightly cringe, than wonder ‘what if?!’
You’ll get your heart broken and won’t be able to imagine life without that person. Oh, dearest Peta, you will get over them and laugh that you wanted to marry someone who wore burgundy corduroy pants.
You teach people how you want to be treated. Have boundaries and don’t allow them to be pushed otherwise you’re just accepting that behaviour.
Trust your gut. When it comes to men, business decisions and even shopping for shoes – just trust your gut.
You’ll save lots time and heartache if you screen your men before you date them. Have a good conversation first, speak on the phone for a bit before you decide to go on a date with them.
Take your health seriously. You cannot be your best self if you aren’t feeling your best.
10 years seems like it’s far away but it’s really not. Stop indulging present Peta and focus on what would be good for future Peta.
Start saving. Even if it’s just $20 put aside every week, by the time you’re 28 this will be $10,400 without interest.
If you can’t wear it out of the change room to show your own mother then you won’t confidently wear it out of the house.
Please don’t start drinking coffee. Just don’t start. Your wallet and the colour of your teeth will thank you and it’s a hard addiction to stop.
Stop comparing yourself to others, it achieves nothing and all it does is upset you. You will have many people who will cut you down and compare you, please don’t be one of them.
Just stick with something and see if it works, stop chopping and changing. Be present and give each idea 100% of your attention and effort.
Spend time with loved ones and tell them how you feel. Not everyone who is currently in your life will be there in 10 years time.
Find a type of exercise you love and stick to it. Stuff what everyone says you need to do, you don’t need to flog yourself at the gym for your health or to see results.
People will say your ideas are stupid but realise that this comes out of a place of fear and jealousy and they don’t want you to do well. Surround yourself with people who boost you up better than a WonderBra.
You have SO many amazing things to look forward to, seriously! When one door closes it happens for a reason and expect 12 different ones to open in it’s place. You have SO many opportunities available to you.
Just be you. You will do amazing things in life if you focus on being yourself.
And finally, an update on my goals and achievements for the month of August…
Where it all started:
In September 2015 I sat down and made three goals. I didn’t like where I was at and I didn’t like where I was heading, so I took my notebook out and made a decision to change. I keep you updated every month with my letter from the editor posts.
1. Get my biz debt down to $10,000.00 by April 2016 (At this stage it was down to $22,139.00)
2. Be 70kg by April 2016 (I was weighing in at 83.6kg the day I made these goals but I know I was sitting heavier than that)
3. Have savings (At this stage I had nothing)
Where I’m at 11 months in:
1. My debt – every 3 months I seemingly have a ‘bad’ month. My BAS is always due right at the end of a Pilates term meaning there is hardly any money coming in. Then my rent is due and around this time I have insurances and a multitude of other bills. I’m sitting around $4500.00, so I’m down $2500 since last month which I am so happy about.
2. My weight – I’ve fluctuated a bit this month. My low weight has been 71.5kg and my high weight has been 73.5kg. I’ve worked out that alcohol makes me retain so much fluid. Even one glass of wine. I drank way too much and ate the entirety of Canberra so I’m feeling chuffed that I haven’t put on much weight at all. Today I’m sitting at 72kg, so I’m down 11.6kg.
3. My savings. Lol, let’s just ignore this post. I think it’s maybe $400.00. It feels hilarious that I am 28 tomorrow and have $400 in savings. I have, however, opened up another bank account where all my writing money and a few other payments go into and that is sitting at $1047.00.
My wins for August:
+ I made a big decision that I’m proud of. I hate to be that person, but I can’t tell you what it is right now. But I made this decision and trust me when I say it’s big and trust me when I say you guys will be the first to know.
+ I took the initiative to contact a guy that I thought was cute. Like most people, I struggle with rejection. I literally kept needing to do nervous wee’s because I was so worried about contacting this handsome guy that I kind of know. And I did it. And the world didn’t explode and I lived to tell the tale.
+ My debt is looking awesome. Under $5k?!?! Mental, right! I’m going to make a big, bold and bodacious goal and say it will be $0 by my next letter.
+ I’ve made a commitment to only have clothes in one wardrobe that’s about as big as a door. Apparently, you only wear 20% of your wardrobe 80% of the time so I’m culling it down. This is hard to do!!!
Things I could work on in August:
+ I still feel like shit warmed up most days over my dating woes. I think I am paying way too much attention to the engagement notifications popping up on Facebook while my days are spent wondering how I have managed to get to 28 with only mustard in my fridge and navigating the minefield that is Tinder.
+ Confidence and self-assurance in general needs work in September. Too many low days in August. My main babes heard me whine way too many times.
+ I work myself into the worst moods that I can’t work and I lose so much time. I hate wasting my life, especially when I am a productive person. So I need to think of a way to get over shit quickly that involve tears or food.
Bring on September!
PS. Want to read my previous month? Click here!