SHESAID: Why a phone date should be your first date

phone date first date | professional babe

Peta Serras

by Peta Serras

I have a regular column at SheSaid where I talk about dating, relationships, sex and single life. Dating burnout is real and that’s why I believe a phone date should always be your first date.

Have you ever been on a date and wondered if the awkward person sitting across from you was the same confident person you’d been texting all week?

I have, several times. And it completely sucks when the person you’ve been chatting to is the polar opposite to what you imagined. How can someone be so witty with their words in a text message, then so devastatingly dull in person? It makes me wonder if their roommate crafted their punchy messages and I should be dating her, instead.

One date in particular, I decided to call a guy I’d been exchanging flirty messages with, to firm up the details around where and when we’d meet for drinks. We were both adults, so a phone call should have been no big deal, right? Except, on the other end of the line was a fumbling mess of a guy who made me wonder if I’d called the right number. I reasoned with myself that perhaps he’d been caught off guard by my phone call, as he’d seemed so confident and clever via his texts just moments earlier. Yet when we finally met in person, he was exactly as boring a conversationalist as he’d been on the phone – awkward, shy, and free of the banter we had in our texts.

Needless to say, the dismal date killed my vibe for the rest of the evening, as I felt I’d wasted what could’ve been a fun night of bar-hopping on a man who was completely wrong for me. As I wished my date well and watched him disappear into the night, praying never to cross paths with him again, I wondered if I should’ve heeded the red flags in our painful pre-meet phone call and saved myself those three hours I’d never get back.

It was then I decided my time is precious and I wouldn’t commit to going out with anyone who couldn’t pick up the phone and chat with me prior to prove their worthiness of it. Here’s why I now ensure a phone call precedes every first date, and you should too…

Read the rest of the article at SheSaid.com…

Xx

Photography by Hannah Robinson.

Peta Serras
Editor of Professional Babe, Peta has a penchant for pretty things, Tom Hardy and ginger kittens. You can find her sipping a long black, creating killer content or making sure her winged eyeliner is even. Peta is a writer, model & Pilates Instructor based out of the Hunter Valley.

Must Read! Featured Posts

letter from the editor july | professional babe

Letter from the editor – July

My thoughts and musings for the month of July.

dating older | professional babe

In Defence of Dating Older

Today we’re talking about dating older men. Is it the formula for finding love?

Follow me on Instagram!

  • Everyone Peta you always look the same in every photohellip
  • Would you pay 23 a day for the convenience ofhellip
  • How party girls frankthefuckup and use their Home Essentials Kithellip
  • Cant get to a workshop but youre antsy to gethellip
  • And so we return with frankthefuckup Frankie boy seriously loveshellip
  • Long gone are the days when I rolled out ofhellip
  • 2017 is shaping up to be one of the besthellip
  • Did you catch the saga on stories last night wherehellip

Join the mailing list

Be in the know

Receive our subscriber only letter from the editor, must-read content & more...

Sending spam is the biggest faux pas. We promise to keep your email address safe and only send you killer content.