We’re all being shit friends

Peta Serras

by Peta Serras

Why are we sharing memes of cats instead of all the cool things our friends do?

Let’s stop being shit friends, okay?

There, I said it.

And I’ve needed to get it off my chest for a while now.

I couldn’t work out why I had 600 or so views on my Instagram stories, yet my photos only came in with a measly 150 or so likes. Everyone kept blaming the algorithm (stop it, you legit sound crazy) but my analytics showed me that my reach was six times higher than that number.

Why no interactions?

I’m pretty sure that reach isn’t all Tinder dates who search my profile to keep tabs on what I’m doing.

It’s also people I know.

People who sometimes never comment on my photos or read my articles. And that’s cool, I get it. I’m your friend and not everything I do you’re going to love.

But why message me a week later to tell me how awesome that shoot was if you couldn’t be bothered to double tap the photo and show it a little love?

Why are you sharing cat memes or commenting on every one of Kimmy K’s photos? She isn’t even going to see it!

And I see it all the time on social media land.

People sharing if Kylie Jenner took a dump on the street, but not the cool business that their friend has just poured their life savings into.

And before you say that social media isn’t real, let me tell you the number of messages I get from randoms saying they want to give up because no one reads their stuff or interacts with what they do.

Imagine if that was your besty or even your mum?

The sheer vulnerability required to throw yourself out there in front of the public. To pour your heart on a page or your dollars to open a business.

It’s really fucking hard.

It takes so much emotional energy and effort and usually the feedback you’ll hear is negative.

Why are people more likely to complain about a bad service?

They’ll write so many negative reviews and spend an hour of their time complaining about something they hate, but won’t opt to spread the word by sharing their friend’s gig.

And it isn’t like we want our friends to be the number one source of our marketing plan, but it makes the entrepreneurial a whole lot easier when you have people who have your back.

If you have a business you understand where I’m coming from.

I know I’ve been guilty of being a shitty friend, even though at the time I would have disagreed.

I’ve shown up to birthdays. I’ve checked in with my friends daily. I’ve even shouted them lunch. But I’ve also been really silent when they’ve done something awesome, not realising the impact of that silence.

So now I’m being loud.

And I challenge you to be loud too.

I challenge you for the next seven days to support one of your friends who is doing something really cool.

It could be walking into their shop and buying a coffee.

It could be sharing their gig on your Facebook page.

It could be commenting on their blog posts and sharing it to your feed.

It doesn’t have to be this huge exchange of money or emotional energy.

And trust me when I say that this seemingly small gesture will be so appreciated by that other person.

How can you be a good friend today?



Peta Serras

Editor of Professional Babe, Peta has a penchant for pretty things, Tom Hardy and ginger kittens. You can find her sipping a long black, creating killer content or making sure her winged eyeliner is even. Peta is a writer, model & Pilates Instructor based out of the Hunter Valley.

  • Asja Svilans

    Love this a lot! Bang on point! Shall be sharing this far and wide 🙂

    • professionalbabe

      Woohoo babe! I’m glad you love it! xo

  • Michelle Alexiou


    • professionalbabe

      Thanks darling! xo

  • Neo

    Whiny and as usual, blaming other people. Take some accountability peta. If you bitch about your friends on your blog and post constantly about yourself in some uber boring non conversational contributing way with self obsessed photos which comes across insecure and pathetic – no wonder no one gives a shit about your millionth attempt at self gratification and narcissism? It’s boring. Get a new theme. The number of likes doesn’t matter. The quality of content and depth of personality…. well there you go.

  • Kristen Zotti

    Great article and food for thought 🙂

  • Obsessed with this! Sharing it now! X

  • so much yes!!! its lonely out there when you think no one is reading / listening / looking… have recently grouped up with some lovely ladies on insta to all support each other and it is so much more fun now after I had a much needed break <3 good on you for being loud xx

    • Samantha Sharpe

      I may have just followed you on insta. I’d like to add some extra support. (:

  • I needed this reminder hun! Awesome post 🙂 xxx

  • I love this and it rings so true. I’ve seen it happen many a time and also seen people make similar comments. I think it’s time we stopped worrying so much about supporting celebrities all the time (they’re name will easily sell anything they want) and start making an effort with those around us in our local community and in our friendship circles. I can see why you’ve gotten so many shares on this post girl – because everyone know this it to true xx.

    Amy // http://www.thenoiseinwonderland.com

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